It’s important to take care of your partner.
Of your relationship. And of yourself.
As a partner the most important thing to remember is this: ED is a medical condition and you‘re definitively not the cause. Acknowledge that the challenge exists and then try to speak openly about it with your partner. Remember: Treat this the way you would do with any other conflict in your relationship, just calmly discuss it and seek for a solution together. And while some men would rather go the treatment route alone, other might welcome the support of their partner. So be certain to make the offer to go with him to a doctor’s appointment, and then let him make the final decision.
Possible strategies to find a solution together:
- Read and learn as much as you can about ED.
Here we inform you about ED with detailed information. The more you know (e.g. about changes of lifestyle or medical treatments), the better you’ll be prepared to support your partner.
- Show your partner how much you value him.
The two of you shouldn’t forget that ED isn’t a reflection of his masculinity or feelings regarding you, and that it also hasn’t changed how you feel about him. Assure him that you’ll get through this situation together.
- Offer to go with him to a doctor.
Even if he decides to manage the situation on his own in the end, it’s important for him to know that you are there for him.
- Always talk about how you feel. And don’t let the situation drag you down.
You’re also affected and just like anything else that’s happening in your relationship, talking can help to avoid any misunderstandings. It is also understandable that you sometimes might feel distressed and sad. But: His condition is caused by physical or psychosocial factors and has nothing to do with his emotions for you or your physical attractiveness.
- Adjust your (love) life to the situation.
Look for other ways to have fun together and satisfy each other. That might reduce the pressure he’s feeling in that very special situation. Feeling close always includes more than sex.
- Remind him to stay in touch with his doctor or healthcare professional.
It is important that your partner consults them regularly to update them about changes, so that adjustments to the treatment can be made if necessary.
“Stay positive. Keep talking and discuss what you and your partner want and need, how you can achieve it and who might help you best. Keep in mind that the condition also affects many other and can be treated.”